In our society, there tends to be a negative stigma attached to being a working mom. This is even truer if you are a working mom by choice instead of by need. I can’t even begin to count the number of hurtful phrases that have been said to me because I chose to have a career AND a family.
“I wouldn’t want someone else raising my kids.”
“Haven’t you seen the horror stories about daycare centers on the news?”
“You need to make sure your daughter understands who really loves her.”
“If you cared more about your kids than material items, then you’d be able to stay home.”
“My kids matter to me and I make time for what matters.”
I could go on all day. The fact is, these phrases are designed to hurt women and make them feel bad about their lifestyle. Let me just say, I refuse to be mom-shamed and to feel bad about the choices I make for my family.
Are there downsides to being a working mom? Absolutely! However, there are also many positives. I’m so excited to turn the conversation about working moms from negative to positive. So, let’s chat about all of the reasons being a working mom is a great choice!
Being a Working Mom Sets a Great Example
My daughter is always following me around and carefully analyzing every move I make. She’s my little shadow. I’m sure your kids do the same! This had made me hyper-aware of the example that I am setting for her.
Being a working mom gives me the opportunity to be a great role model for my daughter. As she watches me skyrocket my career, she will learn that hard work and dedication pays off. By watching her dad and I split household work she will learn that dishes, laundry, and cooking aren’t just a woman’s job. She will also get a front-row seat to what a strong and independent woman looks like.
Being a Working Mom Makes Me a Better Parent
I didn’t go back to work until my daughter was almost a year old. I didn’t go back to work full time until she was a year and a half. During that year I frequently found myself feeling the stay at home mom burn out.
Come on mamas you know what I mean. I often felt tired, overwhelmed, unappreciated, and unfulfilled. Having all of these feelings definitely didn’t make me the mom I wanted to be. I wasn’t fully present and enjoying the time I had with my daughter.
Now that I am working full time, my cup is filled to the rim. I feel the excitement, purpose, fulfillment, and true happiness nearly every day. This immense joy carries over into my home life with my family. I’m a happier mama when I’m around my daughter now.
The best part is that having that time away from her really made me appreciate the time we have together. We may not have a high quantity of time, but the quality of the time we share has skyrocketed.
Being a Working Mom Allows Us More Opportunities
I will be the first person to say that money isn’t everything and it sure as heck can’t buy you happiness. Trust me, I grew up with a dad who was an extremely hard worker and owned a very successful business. I know first hand the positives and negatives that money and success have.
I didn’t make the decision to go back to work purely based on the number of material possessions I could buy with my new salary. Heck, I’m still sitting here writing this post in my husband’s old college sweatshirt (definitely not designer pajamas)! Having more zeros in our bank account wasn’t a worthy trade-off for sacrificing time with my daughter.
What I did take the time to consider were the opportunities that the increased income could provide our family. It would allow us to grow our family and have more children. We would be able to travel more often together – which is my favorite way to spend quality time. We’d be able to stock our fridge with healthier food choices. The best opportunity is that it allows us to put money aside for our future and for our children’s future.
Being a Working Mom Allows Other People to Love My Daughter
One of the phrases I hear the most about why moms shouldn’t work is that women don’t want someone else raising their child. They wouldn’t want that child loving someone more than their own mom or even confusing who their real mom is.
I want to note that a child’s capacity for love is amazing. My daughter has had three prominent sitters throughout her life. Y’all would not believe how much my child loves these women and how much they love her in return. On top of that, she also loves her grandparents, her godparents, her fav auntie, and her doggy Mags so stinking much. The best part is that all of that love has never pulled from the love she has for her dad and me.
Not only does my daughter get to love on these other amazing women, but she gets to receive endless love in return. I’m a firm believer that you can never have too many loving and kind people in your child’s life. Having loving women care for my daughter isn’t a concern for me, but a true blessing.
Being a Working Mom Allows Me to Be Morgan
If I could get up on a soapbox right now, grab you by the shoulders, and just pour words straight into your heart they would be, “Your life didn’t stop the day you became a mom.” That’s right friend, the person you are doesn’t just stop existing the day you give birth.
Something I am so passionate about is the fact that moms deserve to be people too. They deserve to have passions, hobbies, dreams, ambition, and all the things that make them uniquely them. Their identity doesn’t have to come to a stop at the word “mom”.
One of the reasons that being a working mom just sets my soul on fire is that it allows me to remember the Morgan I was before I had my daughter. At work, I’m able to have engaging adult conversations. I have the ability to problem-solve and make critical decisions. I get to do work that I am so passionate about that impacts so many people’s lives. Being a mom is a huge part of my identity, but so is being Morgan.