My husband and I have started talking about when we should start trying for baby number 2. Personally, I just can’t wait! I absolutely love being a mom and I can’t wait to watch our family grow. During these conversations I often reflect back on my pregnancy with Olivia. I think about my favorite moments, but I also think about the things I would have done differently. After going through surgery and fertility treatments my pregnancy was a wonderful blessing. However, there are still are a few things I will be doing differently the second time around. Let’s be real: I think all mothers, especially first time mothers, have at least one thing they would do differently. If you don’t, you must share your secrets.
Stayed Off Google
I learned early on in my pregnancy to stay away from Dr. Google. However, I had to learn it the hard way. So, learn from my mistakes and never consult Google for any medical advice. The best thing you can do if you are having any questions or concerns during your pregnancy is to call your OBGYN. Many have a nurses line that you can leave a voicemail on. They are more than happy to call you back and answer any questions you are having. If they feel that you need to get in to see your doctor they can make you appointment ASAP. Remember, no question is a dumb question when it comes to you or your baby’s health. Don’t ever be too embarrassed to call your doctor. That is what they are there for.
Stood Up For Myself
I have never been the most assertive person. In fact, I can be quite passive. For some reason this only got worse during my pregnancy. I don’t know if any of you can relate to this, but I have never doubted myself as much as I did during pregnancy. Occasionally, I would let strangers push me around with their opinions. However, I was the worst about standing up to my doctor or other medical personnel. Because of this I missed out on a lot of what I wanted for my pregnancy and delivery.
Remember, this is your pregnancy, your body, your baby, and your experience. Your doctor is simply there to guide you and advise you, but they should never pressure you into a decision. If you don’t feel comfortable with your physician don’t hesitate to find a new one. You will want a doctor who you feel comfortable with by your side when it’s time to bring your baby into the world. Changing physicians was one of the best decisions I’ve ever made. I actually look forward to my fertility appointments now. I feel very lucky to have a doctor who supports me and encourages me on my team.
Documented My Pregnancy
One of my biggest regrets during my pregnancy was not taking the time to document it. During my pregnancy I struggled with my body image. I was very self conscious and didn’t like taking photos. However, now that my daughter is born I actually miss being pregnant. Never thought I’d say that! I wish I had the pictures of my growing bump to look back on. Plus, I would love to show them to her one day.
It also would have been nice to get some professional maternity pictures taken. Who knows, maybe that would have been the confidence boost I needed! I definitely plan on getting them for my next pregnancy. If you are currently struggling with self confidence during your pregnancy I highly recommend fighting through and getting some pictures. You may not feel beautiful now, but one day those pictures will mean to the world to you.
Been More Active
During my pregnancy I was sick all the way up until the day I had my c-section. This made it extremely difficult to get any exercise in. I was able to go on short walks, but anything more than that was too much for me. During my next pregnancy, it’s important to me to try and be more active. I would like to go on more walks, try some prenatal yoga, and even swim laps. This will help make both my pregnancy and my delivery easier. Being active during pregnancy also helps make the transition into a postpartum exercise plan a little easier.
Asked For Help
My first pregnancy was extremely difficult for me. Not only did I have debilitating morning sickness through my third trimester, but we also went through a few major life changes. We left Kansas City and moved 6 hours away to be closer to family. During this move I also went from working full time to staying home. Then, we bought a house and moved during my third trimester! That’s a lot of life changes for anyone to go through in one year, but it’s especially difficult for a pregnant mama. Looking back, I wish I would have put my pride aside and asked for help. When you bottle all of those emotions up inside of you it isn’t healthy. I should have opened up and shared my struggles more. It would have taken a huge weight off my shoulders.
I also wish that I would have asked for more help physically. However, I am one of the most stubborn people I know so asking for help isn’t easy for me. I definitely needed it though. So, learn from my mistakes and don’t hesitate to ask your friends or family for help. Pregnancy isn’t always rainbows and butterflies and it’s okay to admit that. If you need some saltine crackers and sprite tell your spouse. They would be more than happy to run and grab you some (at least they should be). If you need something heavy moved don’t try to do it yourself. Instead, call a friend. Your family and friends are there to support you during this time. Most of them are more than happy to help. You just have to be willing to ask.