Pregnancy is advertised as one of the most enjoyable times in a woman’s life. If you look on social media it seems like all women have a beautiful pregnancy glow and are adoring this special time. It’s important to remember though that every pregnancy is unique. Some women may find pregnancy to be the most magical time in their lives, but it’s okay if you don’t.
For some women pregnancy is a difficult and painful experience. In fact, some women find pregnancy to be down right miserable. There is absolutely no shame in admitting that. Not loving pregnancy is not synonymous with not being a good mother. You can still love your baby more than life itself, but hate pregnancy. You should not feel like less of a woman or less of a mother because of these feelings.
Pregnancy is a beautiful gift. It is such a blessing to be able to create life and to cary your little miracle inside of you. I’m in such awe at how strong women are and what are bodies are capable of. It truly is a miraculous thing. As wonderful as pregnancy is, it does have some downsides. Here are a few things women go through that can make pregnancy less than enjoyable.
Morning Sickness – Let’s take a moment to talk about the dreaded morning sickness. Now I don’t know about you, but I think that this needs a new name. Because for many women nausea during pregnancy is not just limited to the morning. In fact, for many it can last all day long! Morning sickness affects more than 50% of women during their pregnancy. For most women, the nausea goes away after the first trimester. However, for some women it can last throughout the duration of the pregnancy – this was my unlucky fate. If you find yourself suffering from morning sickness click here to read my tips and tricks to beat the nausea.
Exhaustion – You have not truly experienced exhaustion until you are carrying another life inside of you. Somehow, you can sleep for 10 hours and still wake up feeling like you got hit by a truck. It’s understandable to be tired though. Your body is working double time trying to provide both you and your baby with everything needed. That’s why it is so important to be kind to yourself during pregnancy. Rest whenever possible. This is not the time to try to be Superwoman.
Swelling – Before you even gain your first pound of pregnancy weight you will start to swell. You may feel like you are showing, but unfortunately that is just pregnancy bloat. Isn’t the first trimester fun? Soon, that bloat will lead to swelling. You will get swelling in your feet, your hands, and even your face. Go ahead and lock up your wedding ring because it will be a while before you get to wear that again. If you are currently dealing with swelling here are a few tips to help you out.
- Avoid standing for long periods of time
- Keep your feet elevated
- Avoid exposure to heat
- Drink plenty of fluids
- Sleep on your left side
- Wear loose, breathable clothing
- Wear comfortable shoes
- Take a dip in the pool
Mood Swings – Imagine this – you are exhausted all of the time, your hormones are out of whack, you feel sick constantly, and your body aches. Wouldn’t this make even the sanest person act a little crazy? It’s no wonder women’s emotions are all over the place during pregnancy. If you find yourself crying for no reason at all know you are not alone. When you roll over in the middle of the night to see your husband sleeping peacefully and feel infuriated know you are not alone. If you find yourself crying and laughing at the same time know you are not alone. Pregnancy makes us all just a little bit crazy and that’s okay. I’ve been right where you are and I have had my own pregnancy mood swing meltdowns.
Body Changes – A woman’s body goes through a number of changes during pregnancy. It can be quite difficult to process them all. We all know about stretch marks and the fact that mom’s belly will grow to make room for the baby. However, there is so much more that happens to a mother’s body during pregnancy. For example, did you know that the increased amount of blood in the body during pregnancy can cause frequent nose bleeds and stuffiness? Leg cramps are also a frequent problem during pregnancy because the body changes the way it processes calcium. It takes a toll on a woman’s body to carry a child in ways that many of us wouldn’t expect.
Unsolicited Advice & Comments – There is just something about seeing a pregnant woman or mother that makes people forget about boundaries. People will do and say things to a pregnant woman that they would never say to anyone else. They feel comfortable commenting on a woman’s weight. They have no qualms giving their opinions on how you should raise that miracle growing inside of you. Questions are asked that are completely personal and inappropriate. You may think I’m talking about well meaning family and friends, but I’m not. These actions are often from complete strangers. Talk about uncomfortable. The worst for me is when someone I don’t even know tries to come up and rub my belly without asking. It’s extremely uncomfortable.
Uncertainty About the Future – One of the most difficult parts of pregnancy is the fear of the unknown. No matter if it’s your first, second, third, or sixth baby things are about to change. You’re life will never be the same again. It can be difficult to process all of the changes that are about to happen. It’s overwhelming to think about the changes in finances, in your family, in your daily life, and in your body that are coming up. All of the emotions and stress you are feeling are normal. I know it is a lot to think about right now, but you will figure it out when the time comes. I firmly believe that God does not give us more than we can handle.
For all of you mamas out there struggling to find the joy in your pregnancy please know that I have been right where you are. I had an extremely difficult pregnancy and struggled to find enjoyment in it. However, the second I held my little girl in my arms for the first time it was all worth it. So, if you are struggling now focus in on thinking about that perfect moment. Everything you are fighting through now is to get you to the finish line and to get a sweet, healthy baby in your arms. You’ve got this mama.