There are a lot of emotions a new mom feels after she gives birth. She may feel ecstatic, full of love, and excited. She may also be feeling overwhelmed, exhausted, and frustrated. The postpartum period is basically one giant roller coaster of emotions. This hormonal rollercoaster can leave a new mom feeling down right annoyed with many people in her life. Before she had a child these people may not have affected her at all. However, now she can’t help but let them get under her skin. The word hate is a strong exaggeration for this article, but these types of people are definitely a frustration to a new mom. Here are 10 types of a people a new mom might be hating on during her postpartum period.
The inconsiderate sick person – Your biggest fear as a new parent is your child getting sick. Every sneeze, sniffle, and cough is a threat to your baby. People who are sick are going to be your worst enemy once you have a child. However, the inconsiderate sick person is even worse. These type of people either don’t realize how dangerous an illness can be to a newborn or they simply don’t care. They don’t cover their mouth when they sneeze. They don’t wash their hands before touching your baby. Some even commit the worst offense of all. They come to visit your baby knowing they are sick and they don’t tell you. Your mama bear instincts will roar and you will be angry. That’s okay though, because the inconsiderate sick person is the worst.
The solicitor knocking on your door – After an hour of feeding, rocking, singing, shushing, and praying you finally get your child down for a nap. Then, after all that work someone knocks on your door and your baby wakes up crying. It just doesn’t get much worse than that. We don’t care how cute your little Girl Scout is or how yummy her cookies are. We will still get mad if she wakes our child. Our postpartum period probably isn’t the best time to try to get us to go to your church. We’re already praying daily for our sleep and sanity back. This even goes for you Mr. UPS man. If you have a package we have to sign for we don’t want it. If it can’t be dropped at our doorstep silently it may as well be dropped in the trash.
The visitor who never leaves – There are typically two types of visitors you will get after you have a baby. The first is the helpful visitor. This friend brings you food, offers to help around the house, and maybe even watches the baby so you can take a nap. They are the BEST! Then, there is the staycation visitor. This type of visitor is one to avoid my friend. They view their visit as a little vacation from the world. You are expected to host them. They want you to grab them a glass of water or a snack, entertain them while they are there, and spend the afternoon chatting. All of your subtle hints that you need to feed the baby or are getting tired will be ignored. Their quick 30 minute visit to meet the baby will quickly turn into an afternoon staycation.
The friend who leaves you behind – This person is probably the most hurtful to a new mom. Oftentimes, once you become a mom you start to notice your old friends slipping away. It happens so slowly that you almost don’t notice it happening. They start to take longer to answer your messages. Their visits slowly decrease. It gets harder and harder to find a day to meet up. Before you know it you don’t hear from them at all. It’s a difficult portion of the journey of motherhood. Unfortunately, you and your friends are just in different places in life right now. However, those friends will soon be replaced with new mom friends.
The stranger sharing unsolicited advice – There’s nothing worse than the random advice you get from strangers. Especially, when it is parenting advice. As a new mom you’ve got to be prepared for these run-ins nearly everywhere you go. This includes the grocery store, the park, the waiting room at the doctors office, restaurants, and more. The advice will range from how you should be feeding your child, to how to discipline them, to how to care for them. While this advice is often well meaning it can often come across as condescending. It’s especially difficult to take this advice when it comes from someone who doesn’t have kids themselves. Although it may be difficult, the best thing you can do is just smile, nod, and move on with your day. You won’t change their minds and arguing with them only brings you down.
The Instagram mom whose life looks perfect – It is so easy to compare yourself to the moms on social media. The pictures and videos they share make their lives look perfect. Their kids look so happy and so do they. Meanwhile, your house is a mess, your kids are terrorizing each other, and you haven’t even showered today. It’s easy to get down on yourself when you compare your life to theirs. However, you have to realize they are only posting the good parts of their day. They aren’t posting the tantrums, the fights, and the mess. So, ditch those instamommies that bring you down. Hit the unfollow button if they don’t bring joy to your day. Stop comparing your reality to the fantasy.
The husband sleeping peacefully – Nothing is more infuriating than waking up for your third feeding of the night and seeing your husband sound asleep. You almost want to take a pillow and smother him with it. It’s also quite frustrating to hear how badly he needs a nap when you haven’t slept in 3 months. He may be quite frustrating, but I recommend trying not to kill him. Soon, your baby will start to sleep more which means you will start to sleep more. I promise once you start to get more rest he will become more tolerable. Until then, just pray for patience because you will need it. Husbands mean well, but boy are they difficult.
The mommy shamers – Being a mom is tough. There are so many important deicisions moms have to make throughout their child’s life. Every decision is carefully thought out and agonized over. That’s why mommy shamers are the worst type of people. Every mom is just trying to do what she feels is best for her child. The fact that anyone would make her feel badly about that is simply disgusting. So, let’s get real for a second. It doesn’t matter if a mother chooses to breastfeed or formula feed. Who cares if the baby sleeps in a nursery or the mothers room. It doesn’t affect you if a mother chooses to have 1 child or 10. Quite frankly, how a parent chooses to raise their children isn’t anyones business but theirs.
The inventor of WebMD – WebMD should be banned for all new parents. It’s common for a first time parent to be filled with questions when they bring their newborn home. It’s easy to turn to the internet for a quick answer. However, instead of making parents feel better it makes them feel worse! It tends to give the worst case scenario for each ailment making parents panic. I swear you can turn to WebMD for a fever and tummy ache and get diagnosed with cancer. It’s terrible! So, instead of turning to Dr. Google I recommend calling your pediatrician. They have spent an enormous amount of time and money educating themselves about children. They are the best resource to utilize for all of your questions and concerns.
The pregnant you – The postpartum you will absolutely loathe the pregnant you. You’ll resent yourself for all the workouts skipped, desserts eaten, and kegels missed. You may have thought you were doing great during pregnancy. You did a few yoga classes here and there and even took a couple walks. Your diet was pretty good too! Heck you even went to some birthing classes and did some kegels there. However, as you are recovering you may start to realize it wasn’t quite enough. Is it ever enough though? You probably could have been an Olympic athlete and still be struggling a bit right now. So, take it easy on yourself. You’re only human after all.