If you’ve read my post on must have books during pregnancy/motherhood, then you’ll know that I highly recommend reading “The Wonder Weeks“. This book walks you through the first ten mental leaps that your child goes through. It provides a timeline of when to expect each leap, signs to watch for, new skills they will show, and how to help them get through it. There is even an app you can download on your phone to accompany this book. You can also find Wonder Week Facebook groups that correspond to your child’s birth month. This way you can interact with other moms who are at the same stage as you. I am so grateful that I read this book and I can’t rave enough about it. However, there are a few aspects of it that I don’t love.
What I Love About The Wonder Weeks Book
One of my least favorite parts of a child’s first year is that they lack the ability to communicate. It can be extremely frustrating to not be able to ask your child why they are crying, not eating, or not sleeping. I’d love it if they could just give me a simple answer. Wouldn’t we all? However, instead it feels like I’m trying to put together a thousand piece puzzle. Wonder Weeks helps bridge the communication gap between parents and children during the first year. It gives parents an understanding as to what’s going on inside their child’s minds.
I also love that Wonder Weeks provides a general timeline of behavior changes to expect. It tells me when baby’s leap will be, when the fussy period will happen, and when I’ll get your happy baby back. This takes a significant amount of stress out of parenting. It’s the perfect little cheat sheet to navigating your child’s first year. Trying to plan a vacation? Check your Wonder Weeks app! Wondering if you should RSVP yes to a wedding? Check your Wonder Weeks app! It may not always be spot on, but in my personal experience it’s been pretty darn close.
Not only does The Wonder Weeks give parents an insight into what their child is going through, but it also helps them find ways to handle it. Wonder Weeks includes a section on games, activities, and toys for your child to do during each leap to help them navigate their new skills. The more they practice a new skill the better they will get. That’s why enjoying these different activities with your baby is so important. It makes practicing these new skills fun! I don’t know about you, but I am always struggling to find new activities to keep my daughter entertained. So, this was perfect for me!
What I Don’t Like About The Wonder Weeks Book
As you can tell, I am a huge fan of The Wonder Weeks. However, just like any product, there are aspects of it that I don’t love. I’m easily able to overlook these problems. So, I wouldn’t let them deter me from buying the book. However, they may be more bothersome to other parents. Which is exactly why I want to share them with you. I want to give you a complete picture of what Wonder Weeks looks like before you spend your money. This means the good and the bad. So, let’s talk about the bad.
My biggest pet peeve about Wonder Weeks is it causes parents to compare. I often see parents compare their child to the book. For example, it says children may start to use consonants after leap 4. So, parents begin to panic that their child is behind if they don’t immediately show that skill. This isn’t the books fault. In fact, it states multiple times that they are sharing the earliest time you would see a skill. It’s perfectly normal for parents to not notice that skill for another leap or so. Unfortunately, parents (myself included) tend to forget that crucial piece of information.
We live in a highly competitive society. So, it’s only normal that parents would struggle with comparing their child. It’s hard not to compare them to the books, to our friends’ children, and even our other children. However, we must remember that this book is not about whether your child is ahead or behind. While it does talk about timing, the book’s actual purpose has nothing to do with timing at all. The true goal of Wonder Weeks is to help parents better understand their children. This will allow them to be more sympathetic to the fussiness and to parent in a more appropriate way. If parents can steer clear of the comparisons and stay focused on the true goal, then this is a great book for them.