Are you stuck in a funk right now? Girl, I’ve been there many many times. I know exactly what it feels like to be so down in the dumps. I understand how exhausted, overwhelmed, and downright unhappy you probably are. It’s not an easy feeling to shake. However, your answer isn’t at the bottom of a bottle of wine or an all-night movie marathon on the couch. Although that would be nice, huh? You see, all of that stuff is an easy fix. True emotional self-care isn’t overnight. It isn’t always easy. It is a long journey. However, it is totally worth it.
So, now you’re probably wondering what the heck emotional self-care is. I know I was when I first heard about it. I mean, we’ve all heard about self-care. BUT what we typically think about is a hot bubble bath, a girls day at the spa, a fresh blow-out, or even a hot shower without your kids constantly coming in to interrupt. Well that my friend is more along the lines of physical self-care. Self-care actually goes far beyond just taking care of yourself physically. It’s also about taking care of yourself mentally, emotionally, and spiritually.
Emotional self-care is something that I’ve been focusing a lot on in my own life recently. So, I’m feeling really pumped and passionate about this particular type. Practicing emotional self-care daily has been a game-changer in my life. It’s helped me not only understand what exactly is bringing negative energy into my life, but also how to get rid of it. Awesome, right? Well, now it’s time that I passed everything that I”ve learned onto you. Are you ready? Here are my all-time favorite ways to practice emotional-self care.
Clean Up Your Social Media
How much of your day are you spending scrolling social media? I bet you it’s a pretty good amount. Heck, I can almost guarantee you that you do it in the bathroom. Newsflash, you don’t need your phone to pee. That’s a fight for another day though. So, I digress. My point here is that a large portion of your day is being spent online. So, you should make sure that it is influencing you well. Take the time to unfollow accounts that make you envious, catty, or just downright unhappy. If you don’t leave their page feeling inspired and excited, then you don’t need to be following them. Are you wondering who you should be following? Well, I recommend puppies. It takes a special kind of monster to not feel giddy around cute puppy dogs.
Social Media Detox
Sometimes a social media clean-up just isn’t enough to get you out of your funk. I’ve been there! That’s when it’s time to bring in the big guns of emotional self-care. That’s right, I’m talking about a social media detox. It’s time to say peace out to your online buddies and take an internet vacation. I know this is hard to do. Social media is so addicting whether we want to admit it or not. Even if you only detox for a weekend it will be lifechanging for you. It’s uber refreshing to live your life offline for a while. So don’t knock it till you try it. Pro tip – don’t just log out of the apps. Instead, delete them completely from your devices. Not being able to see them every time you unlock your phone really helps remove the temptation to break the detox early. No one likes a quitter.
Dance It out
Fun fact – my daughter and I have a dance party every single day when we get home. She dances like the uncoordinated toddler she is and I rock it like the mom I am – sprinkler style yo. It’s probably not the most attractive scene to watch, but boy do we have fun. Our daily dance party is the best way we know to get rid of any bad juju from the day. If she had a tough day at daycare, then we dance it out. If I had a bad day at work, then we dance it out. Good vibes only at our house. I highly recommend blasting your favorite tunes when you get home for a good energy change. Dance like no one’s watching sister.
Write Yourself a Love Letter
We all have parts of ourselves that we feel insecure about. Yes, even you Confident Cathys out there. You might doubt your intelligence, your bravery, your compassion, or your physical attributes. For me, it’s my ability to be a good mom. Holy smokes, the doubt about that one keeps me up at night. When the negativity really starts to tear me apart, I sit down and write a love letter to myself. I write from that place of fear. I list out everything that I’ve done that disputes the self-doubt. For example, I write from my mama-heart and list out every single thing I’ve done that has made me an excellent mother. Then, when I’m really struggling again I will go back and reread that letter. It’s a beautiful way to practice emotional self-care and flip the negative beliefs about yourself to positive ones. Give it a try!
Give Yourself a Compliment
Every morning when we get ready we look at ourselves in the mirror. We sit there and nitpick every detail about ourselves. The clothes don’t fit right, the hair is too frizzy, the skin is too dull. The list can go on and on. I don’t know about you, but I’m tired of allowing that kind of negativity in my house. It’s time to kick it to the curb. So, I’m challenging you to flip the script during your morning routine. Instead, of shaming yourself when you look in the mirror, give yourself a compliment. Find at least one thing about yourself that is beautiful and say it out loud. Say it over and over again until you believe it to be true.
Do you know what a negative attitude gets you? More negativity. It’s a vicious cycle. So it’s time to swap our grumbles for a little bit of gratitude. Did your co-worker spill coffee on you today? I get it, that totally sucks. BUT it gives you an excuse to go buy a new blouse. Maybe your electricity went out during the middle of your favorite show? That’s the pits! BUT it forced you to unplug and enjoy some screen-free time. Did your dog have an accident in the house and your handy-dandy Roomba spread it everywhere? Girl, that sounds like pure torture. BUT it will make for a hilarious story after you clean it up. Heck, it may even go viral. The point is, there is always a positive in every situation. Sometimes you just have to look a little harder for it. It’s difficult to change our mindset to gratitude, but once you do it can make an epic difference.